November 5, 2008
In Memory of Ying-Ying
Ying-Ying was my student at the Center. She was a tiny and fragile girl. She wore the thickest glasses. She had no verbal communication skills and was very quiet in class. She’s also adorable. When I hugged her, she sort of melted in my arms. The best word to describe her is the Malay word “manja.” She was 6 years old when she came to the Center.
She wasn’t in the best of health though. Like many children with Down syndrome, she was born with a congenital heart defect. When she was a baby, she underwent a major heart operation, which left a long scar that started from the front of her chest, across her shoulder and all the way to her back.
Learning wise, she was the slowest in the class. She didn’t know any of the alphabets and was not able to differentiate between the different colors or shapes. With some help, she did managed to complete 8-piece puzzles. She was happy and slightly timid in class.
Occasionally, her dad gave me rides to and from the Center. It was in her car that I caught a glimpse of her very playful and cheeky self. She demanded her way with her maid and according to her dad, she’s the queen of the house.
When her parents took her to register for Standard 1 (1st grade) in a public school that has special education classes, her parents were told that because Ying-Ying was not fully toilet-trained, the school was considering not admitting her. So for the next few months, toilet-training for her was a top priority for both her parents and I.
I left the Center at the end of the school year (after one and a half years at the Center) to prepare to continue my studies in the US. One day, several months later, I received a text message from the assistant teacher at the Center. She informed me that Ying-ying passed away in her sleep. She was 7 years old.
It was sad. It was unexpected. It’s hard to explain what I felt. One of my young students just died.
Looking back, I hope I wasn’t too hard on her when she couldn’t tell “merah” (red) from “biru” (blue), even after several months of going through that. Most of all, I hope that she felt loved in my class.
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